“The key is to realize we have the option — the power — to decide who and what has no place in our lives.” — Jill Reid | Discover Your Personal Truth
Do other people take advantage of your good nature?
Seems like most everyone has some kind of issue in their life. Sometimes, more than they can handle. And for many, the best way to solve their problems is to pass them off and let someone else deal with the mess.
Someone like you.
Sound familiar?
I get it. You want to lend a helping hand when you can. Besides, it’s hard to turn down a desperate plea without a good reason. Right?
I’m not suggesting you’re a pushover or lacking any degree of control over your own life decisions. Or maybe I am.
Here’s the point: If you constantly feel like you’re a dumping ground and caught in the crosshairs of another person’s irresponsible behavior, maybe it’s time to close up shop.
Here’s an excerpt from a story in Discover Your Personal Truth that delves into those sticky situations when you’re pressed to step in, take over, and become a problem-solver - even when the circumstances have nothing to do with you.
How to Say “No” When Everyone Runs to You for Help
How do you handle problems?
I realize this is a loaded question, but it’s worth exploring. Because we all share the same frustrations when adversity, drama, and unpleasant situations appear.
That’s when uncertainty and doubt begin to take hold, usually in the form of self-talk. Our inner voice attempts to side-step responsibility with a few lame arguments. Here are a few examples:
Why is this happening to me?
I don’t deserve this ... I’m trying so hard.
I had nothing to do with it. Am I being punished by fate for some forgotten offense, or has a derailed dose of negative karma been accidentally dumped in my lap?
The real question we should be asking ourselves?
Is this really my problem and am I the one responsible for fixing it?
Yes, many of the unwanted and unwelcome events in our lives originate as other people’s issues—which, for some inexplicable reason, often become our problems.
As a result, we’re overwhelmed with difficulties, setbacks, and obstacles that hinder our progress and create unnecessary work. And all because someone decided it was easier to abandon their responsibilities and delegate their personal burdens to us.
Sometimes a situation can become so consuming we’re left wondering if life has turned against us. But really, is the universe on a mission to impede our progress and hinder our efforts to succeed?
You can read the full story and thirty-five others in Discover Your Personal Truth, Book Two of the Real Life Series (available in eBook & paperback at Discover YourPersonalTruth.com)
For those who enjoy video, watch the short Book Trailer here …
In health & happiness,
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Jill Reid is the author of Real Life, Discover Your Personal Truth, Life in Small Doses, and Please God, Make Me A Writer. Her books, videos, and newsletter explore life, relationships, self-improvement, health, and personal success strategies for working through the challenges of everyday life.
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